Our private Facebook group, “You Are Not Alone– Dealing with Spinal Cord Injury,” does much more than help individuals find hope; it offers information members count on and often search for.
One of the group’s most powerful topics is how members handle their feelings of anger after a spinal cord injury. In a single thread, over 100 people chimed in on their angry feelings.
Here are a few moving comments that kept the conversations going. The reason they are so powerful? The responses are real, and as you read them you can tell they come from people who are actually living with paralysis.
Question: How many of you feel angry about your SCI? Can you tell us how you deal with anger?
David: “It’s been 44 years for me … when I get angry I go fishing or lift weights.”
Randy: “It could be worse: the other people who jumped in the pool that day are dead, but I’m still here.”
Jennifer: “I am so angry today and have been paralyzed for 36 years! Some days are better than others. Today is a bad one. The bladder and bowel problems are the worst.”
Cathy: “I was 63 when mine happened. It sucks when your older, cuz we are not that strong anymore. Younger ones could handle it better…but being young also means they haven’t lived much of their lives SCI free!!!!
I believe it’s much sadder for our younger group??
We have lived most of our life walking around freely, no PT, no pain, no UTI’s…. all the other shit that goes with this horrible disability!!!!”
Simon: “I don’t feel angry about my injury. But more angry about the system which lets you down when returning home. It gives me spinal cord injury depression. Because having a spinal cord injury — it’s a specialized area, and many people don’t understand the complexity of our injury. Which not only physically affects us, but more the mental side of our injury. Like at the moment I’m feeling very mixed emotions, the feeling of people around me letting me down.
Debi (A mother) “My son was 31. His wife was pregnant at the time and his accident happened 7 years ago — just before the baby was born. His wife left (no criticism plz) so he was alone and shortly after his wife left his dog unexpectedly died. His pain and anger is what is holding him back. But he works through it.”
Joshua: “I’m 10 years post c5-c6 incomplete and my faith is what keeps me going.”