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Ryan – Do you have children?

Ryan – Do you have children?

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We’re trying to figure out if we are. Need to kind of get thrown into the pool to learn how to swim, or if we’re going to take the stairs into the pool. So, we kind of need to figure out if we’re comfortable enough to do it, or if we just need ... Show More

We’re trying to figure out if we are. Need to kind of get thrown into the pool to learn how to swim, or if we’re going to take the stairs into the pool. So, we kind of need to figure out if we’re comfortable enough to do it, or if we just need to be like, “maybe we should just go for it.” So, we’re trying to feel that out. But we, and this we kind of go back to intimacy, but we both still are struggling with the time that you know—we like to think that when we decide to, things will happen, we’ll be able to get pregnant shortly after deciding and trying just like anybody else would. But even people who have infertility problems, when they’re able-bodied, they never imagine it would take them over—I mean, at first, you’re thinking over a year, and then you know, some people it’s taken them up to five years. And we’ve talked about it, but we haven’t necessarily faced the fact that it could take us years to do it. We think, we hope just like everyone else does that we’ll try a couple of times and then like “yay!” But you know, that’s always the thought in the back of your mind but you don’t want to focus on it because then it kind of takes the fun out of it. I mean you want to be having kids and a fun time also. So, I’m worried about being an older parent. I would rather be a slightly younger parent and be able to see my children doing well and growing up and see grandchildren versus waiting. And you think about, depending on what age you have kids at, and you say certain people—you’re going to be 60 when your kid graduates high school. Like you know, not that that’s, to me it is not the greatest thing, but you’re like by the time your kid graduates college you might not be just as physically active. What if you have a grandchild? You’re not going to be able to enjoy that grandchild as much as if you were at 50-55, something like that. So, that’s always in the back of my mind personally.

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Ryan – Do you have children?

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We’re trying to figure out if we are. Need to kind of get thrown into the pool to learn how to swim, or if we’re going to take the stairs into the pool. So, we kind of need to figure out if we’re comfortable enough to do it, or if we just need to be like, “maybe we should just go for it.” So, we’re trying to feel that out. But we, and this we kind of go back to intimacy, but we both still are struggling with the time that you know—we like to think that when we decide to, things will happen, we’ll be able to get pregnant shortly after deciding and trying just like anybody else would. But even people who have infertility problems, when they’re able-bodied, they never imagine it would take them over—I mean, at first, you’re thinking over a year, and then you know, some people it’s taken them up to five years. And we’ve talked about it, but we haven’t necessarily faced the fact that it could take us years to do it. We think, we hope just like everyone else does that we’ll try a couple of times and then like “yay!” But you know, that’s always the thought in the back of your mind but you don’t want to focus on it because then it kind of takes the fun out of it. I mean you want to be having kids and a fun time also. So, I’m worried about being an older parent. I would rather be a slightly younger parent and be able to see my children doing well and growing up and see grandchildren versus waiting. And you think about, depending on what age you have kids at, and you say certain people—you’re going to be 60 when your kid graduates high school. Like you know, not that that’s, to me it is not the greatest thing, but you’re like by the time your kid graduates college you might not be just as physically active. What if you have a grandchild? You’re not going to be able to enjoy that grandchild as much as if you were at 50-55, something like that. So, that’s always in the back of my mind personally.

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