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Ryan – How has your relationship with your spouse or partner changed?

Ryan – How has your relationship with your spouse or partner changed?

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We’re actually quite a bit closer because we have to communicate so much more. And I heard someone describe it this way: in your home when you are both able-bodied, there’s blue jobs and there’s red jobs, and then there’s the jobs that the ma... Show More

We’re actually quite a bit closer because we have to communicate so much more. And I heard someone describe it this way: in your home when you are both able-bodied, there’s blue jobs and there’s red jobs, and then there’s the jobs that the male does and the jobs that the female does. Well now, we have purple jobs because there’re certain things I can’t do, and she has to pick up the slack, so therefore, it’s fair enough for me to take on some of her tasks. So, I’m the laundry person at our house, although I need help with it all the time. Not so much because I can’t do it, but because I’m lazy, so I’ll recruit her to help me. But yeah, so I mean having to compromise and work together like that, there’s obviously stress about it at first and it takes getting used to with everything else. But as long as you keep an open mind and you’re fair to each other. That’s the other thing is that you have to be really fair to your spouse especially, or if it’s a parent, then you have to consider that person. They can’t do everything for you as much as they might want to, and you want them to. Tou have to be realistic, they don’t want to say no to you.

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Ryan – How has your relationship with your spouse or partner changed?

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Injured in 2015 at age 25, quadriplegic
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We’re actually quite a bit closer because we have to communicate so much more. And I heard someone describe it this way: in your home when you are both able-bodied, there’s blue jobs and there’s red jobs, and then there’s the jobs that the male does and the jobs that the female does. Well now, we have purple jobs because there’re certain things I can’t do, and she has to pick up the slack, so therefore, it’s fair enough for me to take on some of her tasks. So, I’m the laundry person at our house, although I need help with it all the time. Not so much because I can’t do it, but because I’m lazy, so I’ll recruit her to help me. But yeah, so I mean having to compromise and work together like that, there’s obviously stress about it at first and it takes getting used to with everything else. But as long as you keep an open mind and you’re fair to each other. That’s the other thing is that you have to be really fair to your spouse especially, or if it’s a parent, then you have to consider that person. They can’t do everything for you as much as they might want to, and you want them to. Tou have to be realistic, they don’t want to say no to you.

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