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Mary – How have your family relationships changed?

Mary – How have your family relationships changed?

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Initially, the family relationships, especially among Marie and her siblings, were turned all upside down.  The youngest in our family is a girl, and she and Marie were inseparable.   When Marie was injured, I remember Colleen sitting by her bedsid... Show More

Initially, the family relationships, especially among Marie and her siblings, were turned all upside down.  The youngest in our family is a girl, and she and Marie were inseparable.   When Marie was injured, I remember Colleen sitting by her bedside and just couldn’t take her eyes off of her, couldn’t leave the room.  No matter what, she would stay next to her.  The one son was very rebellious and kind of was resentful that he wasn’t the one who was injured.  “Why did it have to happen to Marie?  She was good, she was great, and she was this and that.”  And, he judged himself not to have those qualities and really felt bad that his sister was the one who was injured.  So, he had struggled for years with that.  And, our other son decided that it wasn’t time to act up or do anything.  So, he kind of got into a line and just was the good kid.  So, everybody was playing a different role than they had played prior to her injury.  Over time, things have kind of gone back to normal; especially where Marie was the head of the bunch.  She’s still the go-to person in the family for all the kids, and she’s the one who is the first to jump in if there is a problem or a situation that needs to be managed.  Marie’s right there.

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Mary – How have your family relationships changed?

Mary

Daughter injured in 1988 at age 22, quadriplegic
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Initially, the family relationships, especially among Marie and her siblings, were turned all upside down.  The youngest in our family is a girl, and she and Marie were inseparable.   When Marie was injured, I remember Colleen sitting by her bedside and just couldn’t take her eyes off of her, couldn’t leave the room.  No matter what, she would stay next to her.  The one son was very rebellious and kind of was resentful that he wasn’t the one who was injured.  “Why did it have to happen to Marie?  She was good, she was great, and she was this and that.”  And, he judged himself not to have those qualities and really felt bad that his sister was the one who was injured.  So, he had struggled for years with that.  And, our other son decided that it wasn’t time to act up or do anything.  So, he kind of got into a line and just was the good kid.  So, everybody was playing a different role than they had played prior to her injury.  Over time, things have kind of gone back to normal; especially where Marie was the head of the bunch.  She’s still the go-to person in the family for all the kids, and she’s the one who is the first to jump in if there is a problem or a situation that needs to be managed.  Marie’s right there.

Mary – How have your family relationships changed?
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