Vic – How have your family relationships changed?

Sometimes when things get testy or frustrating, I think a lot of that is that I might have expectations or something.  You know, there’s a certain kind of flavored water that I just like to drink.  And I just don’t like regular drinking water, and I’m supposed to drink a lot of water, so I’m drinking this flavored water.  And it’s like I kind of think that the flavored water should be there all the time.  Well if it’s not, it’s like, “I don’t have any flavored water.”  Or if I can’t go out and do things like pick up the drive cleaning, and do all that on Saturday, someone else is going to do that, usually it falls to her—because the kids are all out doing stuff, and all three of them are driving age, and daughter’s away at college—so things fall on her a lot.  I think that’s some of the frustrating that happens to me, and then I get frustrated because she’s doing it all, and I don’t want her to do it all, but if she doesn’t, it doesn’t get done—so there’s that back and forth.