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Nova – How have your friendships changed?

Nova – How have your friendships changed?

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I would say that’s where most of the changes have occurred, you really do weed out. I have written emails to people who didn’t know what happened to me, or heard back from people who did know what happened to me, and tried to touch bases,... Show More

I would say that’s where most of the changes have occurred, you really do weed out. I have written emails to people who didn’t know what happened to me, or heard back from people who did know what happened to me, and tried to touch bases, and no response. And I remember writing to this one woman that I’ve known for 25-years and I said, “I don’t want to pressure you, and I don’t want to impose upon you; but I’m hurt, we have such history with each other. I love you, what’s wrong?” Nothing. One woman wrote back with the same kind of response that I sent her and said, “I feel like an awful person, I just don’t know how to handle it.” And I said, “I’m totally willing to help you handle it because I don’t want you out of my life. I’m not embarrassed to answer anything, feel free to ask.” So those kinds of things have happened a lot. But where they haven’t happened is where I go, “Hmm, okay.” Cause I always had to love everybody, and everybody had to love me, and I was never willing to sort that out. You know I kind of believed that I could make that happen, that was my truth. It’s not my truth, but what I do have as a truth is definitely worth having, and that’s, those friendships are very precious.

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I would say that’s where most of the changes have occurred, you really do weed out. I have written emails to people who didn’t know what happened to me, or heard back from people who did know what happened to me, and tried to touch bases, and no response. And I remember writing to this one woman that I’ve known for 25-years and I said, “I don’t want to pressure you, and I don’t want to impose upon you; but I’m hurt, we have such history with each other. I love you, what’s wrong?” Nothing. One woman wrote back with the same kind of response that I sent her and said, “I feel like an awful person, I just don’t know how to handle it.” And I said, “I’m totally willing to help you handle it because I don’t want you out of my life. I’m not embarrassed to answer anything, feel free to ask.” So those kinds of things have happened a lot. But where they haven’t happened is where I go, “Hmm, okay.” Cause I always had to love everybody, and everybody had to love me, and I was never willing to sort that out. You know I kind of believed that I could make that happen, that was my truth. It’s not my truth, but what I do have as a truth is definitely worth having, and that’s, those friendships are very precious.

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