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Jennifer – What’s important for family and friends to understand?

Jennifer – What’s important for family and friends to understand?

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I think that everyone is so focused on wanting to teach the child, or teach me in this case, you know, what was happening, and how I should be feeling, and how I should be thinking. Versus, understanding, you know what, I'm a teenager, and when y... Show More

I think that everyone is so focused on wanting to teach the child, or teach me in this case, you know, what was happening, and how I should be feeling, and how I should be thinking. Versus, understanding, you know what, I'm a teenager, and when you're a teenager, things are all about you. And for someone just to say, "you know what, I love you, and the way I'm going to show you that is not to tell you, and to say you can talk to me and do all this, but just to take you and do things I know you love to do, and spend time with you," because those are the things you like to do. And even though your mom's had an accident, you still want to do all those things. I felt very misunderstood about how I felt about it. Because I think what, because I think that the expectation that a teenager or child really understands and is and is mature enough to have the skills to cope with it. I felt the stress of that. I think people need to understand, they don't have those skills. And so, to try to take someone, and sit them down and have a rational conversation about why they should feel one way or another, it really wasn't, it's not helpful.

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Jennifer – What’s important for family and friends to understand?

Jennifer

Mother injured in 1984 at age 44, quadriplegic
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I think that everyone is so focused on wanting to teach the child, or teach me in this case, you know, what was happening, and how I should be feeling, and how I should be thinking. Versus, understanding, you know what, I'm a teenager, and when you're a teenager, things are all about you. And for someone just to say, "you know what, I love you, and the way I'm going to show you that is not to tell you, and to say you can talk to me and do all this, but just to take you and do things I know you love to do, and spend time with you," because those are the things you like to do. And even though your mom's had an accident, you still want to do all those things. I felt very misunderstood about how I felt about it. Because I think what, because I think that the expectation that a teenager or child really understands and is and is mature enough to have the skills to cope with it. I felt the stress of that. I think people need to understand, they don't have those skills. And so, to try to take someone, and sit them down and have a rational conversation about why they should feel one way or another, it really wasn't, it's not helpful.

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