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Audrey – How have your family relationships changed?

Audrey – How have your family relationships changed?

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It’s been interesting.  I think the dynamic that’s particularly changed has been between the three boys.  So, between my eldest and my second, between the child whose disabled and the second, there’s two years, and between the second and the ... Show More

It’s been interesting.  I think the dynamic that’s particularly changed has been between the three boys.  So, between my eldest and my second, between the child whose disabled and the second, there’s two years, and between the second and the third, there’s fifteen months.  So, they’re very close.  They’ve always, fortunately, been very good friends, but there’s always the eldest, the middle and the youngest.  Well with the eldest being disabled, the middle child has kind of stepped up into the older-brother role in a very good way.  We really made a big effort to try and not always have everything be all about Nico.  I think that’s a big danger.  I don’t know how successful we were, but we tried.  I think it’s a very difficult thing to achieve, to not have whole world revolve around the other child.  And, that’s as important in my mind not just for the other two children, but also for the handicapped person themselves.  Because, the world doesn’t revolve around them, as much as might feel like it sometimes.  But, the long and short of it is that out there, the world does not revolve around him, and so we all need to figure out how to deal with that. 

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Audrey – How have your family relationships changed?

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Son injured in 2009 at age 15, quadriplegic
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It’s been interesting.  I think the dynamic that’s particularly changed has been between the three boys.  So, between my eldest and my second, between the child whose disabled and the second, there’s two years, and between the second and the third, there’s fifteen months.  So, they’re very close.  They’ve always, fortunately, been very good friends, but there’s always the eldest, the middle and the youngest.  Well with the eldest being disabled, the middle child has kind of stepped up into the older-brother role in a very good way.  We really made a big effort to try and not always have everything be all about Nico.  I think that’s a big danger.  I don’t know how successful we were, but we tried.  I think it’s a very difficult thing to achieve, to not have whole world revolve around the other child.  And, that’s as important in my mind not just for the other two children, but also for the handicapped person themselves.  Because, the world doesn’t revolve around them, as much as might feel like it sometimes.  But, the long and short of it is that out there, the world does not revolve around him, and so we all need to figure out how to deal with that. 

Audrey – How have your family relationships changed?
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