Alicia – What about sex and dating?

It was scary at first, I mean, because you’re so used to things being in a certain way, and that’s just not that way anymore. You have to get to know yourself again. What might have worked before doesn’t work now, and vice versa. So, you have to find other things that may work for you. I didn’t think I had any feeling for over five years. I was devastated by that. And then discovering I did have feeling it’s just different, you know. So, that was quite an experience. Yeah, I went a long time thinking, “oh, because we do it normally, I can’t feel it normally.” So, it kind of shut me and my ex-husband off. And his basic thing was he didn’t want to hurt me. I’m like, well, I’m already in a chair, so it’s not like he could hurt me anymore than I’m already am hurt. So, it wasn’t until I met my current husband that discovering different things. You know, just trying out different things and being more trial by error.