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Ryan – What sex advice and information was most helpful?

Ryan – What sex advice and information was most helpful?

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That would be one of those times when I would think I would have a lot of questions, go to a sex and intimacy class. And they would really cover a lot of things, and it’d be a lot of information that you feel like you’re kind of—sometimes I kin... Show More

That would be one of those times when I would think I would have a lot of questions, go to a sex and intimacy class. And they would really cover a lot of things, and it’d be a lot of information that you feel like you’re kind of—sometimes I kind of wish I wrote my questions down. But I feel like it just took practice and experience to kind of figure out where you wanted to be, which is really tough thing to do. I mean it’s tough to kind of try to be intimate and learn at the same time because you want to be slick and cool. At Shepherd, they had a sex and intimacy class and it was done by other people in chairs, which was great because obviously those people went through the same struggles you went through. So, I’m trying to think back to initially, definitely you know initially, it takes time to kind of relearn how to be intimate, and there’s a kind of difference between sex and intimacy. It actually with my wife and I, it has definitely made our relationship a lot more intimate just because of how things would operate. It’s not quite like what it was before, so you’re going to be a lot closer, a lot more intimate, things might go slower and things like that. So, we actually in a way, we enjoy it more because we have more intimacy. There’s certain things about it, certainly I’d still love to feel below my level of injury, but I mean I can look at it with a positive spin on it for sure.

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Ryan – What sex advice and information was most helpful?

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Injured in 2015 at age 25, quadriplegic
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That would be one of those times when I would think I would have a lot of questions, go to a sex and intimacy class. And they would really cover a lot of things, and it’d be a lot of information that you feel like you’re kind of—sometimes I kind of wish I wrote my questions down. But I feel like it just took practice and experience to kind of figure out where you wanted to be, which is really tough thing to do. I mean it’s tough to kind of try to be intimate and learn at the same time because you want to be slick and cool. At Shepherd, they had a sex and intimacy class and it was done by other people in chairs, which was great because obviously those people went through the same struggles you went through. So, I’m trying to think back to initially, definitely you know initially, it takes time to kind of relearn how to be intimate, and there’s a kind of difference between sex and intimacy. It actually with my wife and I, it has definitely made our relationship a lot more intimate just because of how things would operate. It’s not quite like what it was before, so you’re going to be a lot closer, a lot more intimate, things might go slower and things like that. So, we actually in a way, we enjoy it more because we have more intimacy. There’s certain things about it, certainly I’d still love to feel below my level of injury, but I mean I can look at it with a positive spin on it for sure.

Ryan – What sex advice and information was most helpful?
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