Sarah – What sex advice and information was most helpful?

Honestly, not a lot. I think that mostly the message that we got was that it’s possible, and to explore it but not a lot of specifics. I don’t know if it was that the resources were there, and I didn’t know where they were, but in the early days I definitely didn’t really know what that looked like. But I think that’s where peer mentoring came into play a lot, I really turned to people that I had become friends with in the community to ask them questions. You know, people that have been doing it longer than us to ask them questions about how do you experience intimacy in that way with your significant other. Like logistically and emotionally, it is different. And that was the most helpful thing because it is going to be different for everybody and suddenly you have to ask people—and usually it’s strangers and so it feels like uncomfortable and a weird space to be. So, I think it’s mostly that it’s a hard conversation to have. Everybody wants to know the answer, but nobody wants to really talk about it because it’s personal. But just to know that it is possible, that was really comforting.