Tom – What sex advice and information was most helpful?

When I was in rehab, they wanted me to go see a psychiatrist, and I was—they had one in-house or whatever—I really had no use for that, but they made me go anyways.   But, I think the lady wanted me to open up, and break down, and bawl my brains out, and do all this stuff, but none of it happened.  But she did give me some information on sex.  Viagra, and Cialis, and stuff like that works for me; other people it might not work for, or I heard it doesn’t work for.   Intimacy is, me and my wife aren’t as intimate as we used to be, but I think more because she knows that I don’t really get anything out of it. But, I’ve tried to explain to her that I don’t get any sensory out of it, but I sure get a visual out of it, and it doesn’t change any of my perspective.  But, she feels she’s being selfish if she’s intimate with me because it’s one sided, but I’m telling her it’s not one sided.