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Mark – What’s the best way to work with a caregiver?

Mark – What’s the best way to work with a caregiver?

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My first advice is you know, ramp up your interpersonal skills, ramp up your communication skills because if you don’t have them, you’re going to need them. And so that’s what I had to learn to do and I learned how to meet people more in the mi... Show More

My first advice is you know, ramp up your interpersonal skills, ramp up your communication skills because if you don’t have them, you’re going to need them. And so that’s what I had to learn to do and I learned how to meet people more in the middle. The attendants I’ve had over the years, it’s almost a friendship. I know some people don’t want it to be that, and some people are advised not to make it that but it’s kind of hard not to understand what is going on in their life as well. So, communications, listening to what’s going on in their life some. You may not be able to do anything about it, you might not be able to, you might not want to engage in it, but it’s important to communicate and listen. I’m not one that has a long list of “here’s all the things that I expect you to do. And going “this is how I do things, how do you?” And then sometimes there’s a negotiation, or sometimes there’s a compromise because I may—it’s like when I get on an airplane. My first advice when I was advising the airlines about how to lift me was saying “just ask me,” versus “well, I’ve been trained how to lift people.” Well, you’ve been trained how to protect your back, you’ve been trained how to stand right, but let me tell you where I want to be grabbed and let me tell you how to move me. But sometimes that’s a conversation that has to occur with a new attendant because they may have lifted a C5-6 quad, before but they haven’t lifted this C5 quad.

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Mark – What’s the best way to work with a caregiver?

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Injured in 1981 at age 19, quadriplegic
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My first advice is you know, ramp up your interpersonal skills, ramp up your communication skills because if you don’t have them, you’re going to need them. And so that’s what I had to learn to do and I learned how to meet people more in the middle. The attendants I’ve had over the years, it’s almost a friendship. I know some people don’t want it to be that, and some people are advised not to make it that but it’s kind of hard not to understand what is going on in their life as well. So, communications, listening to what’s going on in their life some. You may not be able to do anything about it, you might not be able to, you might not want to engage in it, but it’s important to communicate and listen. I’m not one that has a long list of “here’s all the things that I expect you to do. And going “this is how I do things, how do you?” And then sometimes there’s a negotiation, or sometimes there’s a compromise because I may—it’s like when I get on an airplane. My first advice when I was advising the airlines about how to lift me was saying “just ask me,” versus “well, I’ve been trained how to lift people.” Well, you’ve been trained how to protect your back, you’ve been trained how to stand right, but let me tell you where I want to be grabbed and let me tell you how to move me. But sometimes that’s a conversation that has to occur with a new attendant because they may have lifted a C5-6 quad, before but they haven’t lifted this C5 quad.

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